I've also had a hormone outbreak with everything feeling like it is the end of the world and how i want everything done NOW etc. I had just got used to being in control of my feelings and now i am at the mercy of raging pregnancy hormones, i think I've already cried three times since Saturday already and sat pondering about trivial things that i have no control over.
Baby bump has had a little spurt, with it now being clear to anyone that I am pregnant, I have mixed feelings about being open to the world now bump can be seen. I found it easy telling all my lovely blogger and twitter friends about new bump because everyone is so friendly. They make me feel like having a 5th child is normal, but I am feeling a bit shy this time about being pregnant for the 5th time and having every man and his dog looking at me like I'm crazy.
I have become a bit sensitive to the 'you must be crazy' comments and' you need your head feeling' and my all time fav 'you must be a glutton for punishment'. Some comments are said in a light hearted way (which is fine, I do have a sense of humour) but some come with added venom and criticism. I am now very shy about telling people face to face around me because of the barrage of questions that come my way after telling them. My dad let it slip in 4year old's school playground today that number 5 was on the way, I didn't go to pick her up because I didn't want to face it all.
This is so unlike me, maybe it is just the hormones which are making me a bit silly or I am just feeling a bit vulnerable at the moment. All that I know is that I want this baby so much, she/he makes me feel excited about meeting them and I know that I love all my other 4children so much. But to clarify:
- I am trying to move house to give everyone more room,
- I will be able to cope with another one,
- Yes I do like having children,
- No I am not worried about having 5children
- No i won't have anymore
- Yes I'd like a boy, but i will be happy with a healthily happy baby
- No if it is a girl i won't be trying again
- Oh and thanks for the congratulations, oh sorry you didn't say that, oh well.
I think I will print out this list and put it on a card to hand out to any passer by who decides it's ok to grill me. Rant over. Thank you to everyone who left me such lovely comments on my scan picture, you guys are the best xxxxxxx
You having a bad day hun? Give me a ring if you need a chat you know where i am anytime!!! I love you lots big hug and kiss hun love Mummy B x x x x
ReplyDeleteHi Amy, I'm profusely sorry for my part in the above when I met you. Slipped out of my mouth and I regretted it the moment I said it. I have the complete opposite issue, many people questioning my determination to only have 1 child and insisting that I will change my mind as if they know the inside of my head better than I do. Surely anyone who meets you can see what a happy family you are and not doubt that you will be even happier with another arrival? And if they say anything to the contrary, it may just be because they are a blethering fool like myself, nervous about meeting a load of new people and fond of eating my own foot! At least I did congratulate you before completely offending you, not that that really makes it ok. SORRY!! *grovels on knees*
ReplyDeleteI do like the handing out a card idea. You could use that for many situations. I would like to see people's faces using one.
ReplyDeleteOh what is it about being pregnant that means that people all of a sudden feel it is their god given right to comment on your body / life choices / state of mind? It drove me mad and I only had one baby. I got to the point where I was threatening to punch the next person who told me in month 7 that I was massive and 'was I sure that it wasn't twins?' - eh yes, I am pregnant not DUMB!
ReplyDeleteSorry, bit of a rant there. You just enjoy being pregnant my lovely and growing that super baby inside of you. From what I hear from everyone who has met you, you make looking after 4 babies look easy so I am more than sure you can cope with the fifth.
I do have one question that I was wondering about, which I will ask, but do not answer if I have overstepped the line!
Will you find out the sex of the baby before it is born?
Much love xxx
People are funny. I agree with Kelly, why does everyone feel that they have the right to comment when you are pregnant? Let alone touching your stomach which I HATED!
ReplyDeleteWhen I told my mum I was expecting my second, she said 'oh darling, but how will you cope?'. To which the response was 'lets start this conversation shall we again mum and this time you can say what wonderful news, congratulations!'
The title of your post is so bang on. Sorry you get these reactions, maybe at times there's a bit of jealousy in them because these days almost nobody dares to have more than 2 or 3 kids max? No excuse of course for the inappropriate reactions you're getting. Try just to enjoy your pregnancy and your girls! That's what counts, nothing else.
ReplyDeleteI so relate to this post!
ReplyDeleteAll those things were said or insinuated when I was expecting my 4th, especially as there is a large gap between my first two and last two.
Also I was 41 when I had Roo so I got the very rude comments along the lines of "you're far too old so SURELY you won't have anymore!" "Is that it then?"
Well it's my decision and that of my partner and none of anyones business.
I don't expect I'll have anymore but if I do Im not asking for ANY help from anyone.
Good for you having a large family.
Nothing brings more joy than children and you are obviously a wonderful Mum!
Hugest congratulations and stop making me broody!! Xx
Sylvie x FizzyladyRX8
You know what, it is your life and if I had the chance I would have ahd a bus full. It is no ones business but yours and your mans.
ReplyDeleteI think a list of responses is a great idea. Enjoy your pregnancy and your family
Don't they all know you are a supermum? I would have thought they would feel nothing but awe. I know I do, as you definitely have the patience of a saint and organisational skills second to none. You also have a natural affinity with kids and you are so good at being a mummy that your new little one will be truly blessed to come into your family.
ReplyDeleteIgnore the comments and the looks and everything else. Enjoy it all, don't cry you only live once!
I've been trying to clean up my language since I became a mum, but sometimes the old me just comes out, and this is one of those times: FUCK 'EM. People are so fucking rude sometimes. It makes me mad. I know it's hard but dont let them get to you, it's the hormones xxx
ReplyDeleteGrrr - stick on a kaftan and let them guess till May. Not that you should have to, because is there anything better than a new baby? Nope. The little critters also have another benefit; none of us would be blogging if we weren't parents (or rather, we might be blogging, but not necessarily about family stuff, which is pretty fun to write about). Enjoy, enjoy, and make up something amusing to answer those annoying questions. A dippy nursery mum asked if I'd be 'devastated' at having another boy (I've three sons, no daughters) so I told her 'in confidence' that bump was haemaphrodite. A lie, which fortunately didn't come back to bite me, but silly woman.
ReplyDeleteI'm agreeing with Then there were Three. Balls to 'em! And Angelsandurchinsblog made me scream with laughter!
ReplyDeleteA lot of people judge others by their own standards, (they may only want two kids and cant understand why others would want more), this a reflection of them & their feelings only.
When I had Liam at 17, I was asked on numerous occasions if I was going to get him adopted!!! I developed a very hard skin and told them all to f@@k off! (Beggars belief doesnt it? The ignorance of some people).
Put those hormones to good use. Go down that school, face those people and parade your tummy. Stand proud. This is your beautiful family and you are terrific mum.
Something to be proud of I'd say.
Love RMxxx
Amy, congratulations to you! A mother of four with your fifth on the way I am delighted for you and your husband,don't envy your nappy bill tho!! I have just had my second child 3 months ago and being only 25 I'm thinking I have plenty of time for more, but if I even slightly mention this to anybody, my mum included they all stare at me like I have lost my mind!
ReplyDeleteWhen your pregnant the silliest things get to you, but you have just got to embrace that belly and show it off to the world because what you are carrying is a little miracle and the future.
All the best with your pregnancy and the fun, excitement, tears, laughter and love your five little beauties will bring you for a long, long time.
Em xx
Poor you hun but don't let other people's ignorance get to you (i know it's hard) your very lucky and you appreciate it and that is all that matters! Baby no 5 is very lucky to have such a fab mummy and such lovely big sisters mwa x x
ReplyDeleteI so relate to your pain though the slightest mention of me secretly hankering after another baby and everyone from my GP to my mum, sister and best friend ak feel it's within their right to tell me "i'm insane"!
i've only got two under two's and still get comments like this. people are so rude to pregnant women. (aren't you HUGE/TINY! what gives them the right???)i found myself stressing to strangers that my baby was PLANNED, but why the hell do i need to justify myself to them?? yes, get it on business cards to hand out, that will shut the nosy buggers up.
ReplyDeleteSo long as you and your hubby and gorgeous girlies are happy who gives a flying u know what! Carry that bump with pride and know you are a fab mummy! x
ReplyDeleteMummy B: Just ranting hun xxxxx
ReplyDeletekath: no appology needed! I knew you were being light hearted but there are some people out there who vent their opinions in quite a mean way. It was lovely to meet you.
Aingeal: I would love to see their faces too, now where's the printer?
Kelly: I think we will try to have a look to see if we can see what the sex is. I know hubby wants to know (men no patience!) It is amazing how people believe it is ok to just to say anything to you when your pregnant. Especially critical comments which hurt.
Brit in bosnia: what a great way to correct your mum! good on you! I don't like bump feelers either unless they ask first and i know them. Once i had a guy just rub mine at work I WAS TOTALLY FREAKED OUT!!! It made my skin crawl yuck.
cartside: thanks hun, I will start to just ignore them and wear my 5th bump in pride!
fizzy lady: how rude for someone to say that to you!! I love my girls and i love having my children I wouldn't change it for the world i was an only child and i vowed i would have more than one baby...but i never seemed to stop lol!
the mad house: i love that comment 'i would've had a bus full' I'm halfway there to filling a minibus now lol! You're right it is my life and i am very proud of what i've achieved.
ReplyDeletezooarcheaologist: awwww that is such a lovely comment you are so kind :) you are right we only live once and i'm going to live it to the full xx
then there were three: it is the hormones, i'm not normaly so soft lol! i need to toughen up and tell them straight....well after i've cried a bit lol!
angelsandurchinsblog: OMG!! i cannot believe that women took you seriously! what a great trick lol! I would be lost without blogging so i'm glad i'll have even more topics to talk about!
RM: thanks hun your so lovely, how shocking they asked whether you were getting him adopted!!! i would have tolld them to f**k off too. i will wear my bump with pride :)
Emma: thank you for that great comment, your advice is fab and i really apreciate it xx
the wife of bold: aww thanks hun your so nice :) you would be fine with a 5th too, you've got twins and you still look gorgeous i wouldn't think you were crazy just fab as always.
all grown up: i hate the fact that you do feel like you are justifying yourself to these people who have no say in your life whats so ever. What do they want from us??? and i think you handle two under two very well and breastfeeding too!!!
Laura C: thnks hun mwa xxx
I can only imagine the comments , i got enough when pregnant with number 3.
ReplyDeleteI would be the first to say "you must be crazy" , or something like that maybe "better you than me" but it is all really lies. What i really mean is i want to cry because i am so darn jealous , hubby would not shift from max 3 kids and it kills me
When we told hubby's dad and sister we we're expecting a 3rd there was silence in the room.I cried because Mia wasn't planned and they treated my pregnancy as if I had done the worst thing in the world.And it wasn't just them.She'll always will be the one that wasn't meant to be because she was 'an accident'.I would love a fourth, having Mia has made relise what a great gift we are given when have a child but didn't even want a third, of course he adores her now and couldn't imagine life witout her.I hope the pregnancy goes well for you and remember you sholud be proud of your little family.
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For having met you a couple of times lovely lady, you and your wonderful hubby are made to be mummy and daddy! You are doing a fab job and you will keep doing a fab job. And so what?! even if you wanted another one it would be a decision made between the 2 of you.
ReplyDeleteThe answer is if anyone out there is jealous or can't say nice things, just zip it!
You can be proud of yourself, achieving so much and having such lovely, balanced and well behave gorgeous girls Px